The Mensch Series #5: Be a Mensch to your Friends
Lesson: The Mensch Series #5: Be a Mensch to Your Friends
Being a Mensch (good person) is one of the most important aspects of being Jewish. In this lesson, you will learn about what it means to be a mensch to your friends and ways to improve your character to be even more of a mensch. You will learn:
- The teaching of “judging others favorably”
- The middah of derech eretz, having good manners
- The middah of dibbuk chaverim, sticking close by your friends
#1 CONSIDER these ways to be a mensch to your friends
“My best friend is super important to me. We see each other every day at school and on the weekends too and when we’re not together, we text each other pretty much all the time. Sometimes it’s hard for me to always get what I want, like which house to go to on Saturday or what movie to see. I always want it to go my way but sometimes we just need to compromise, that’s the way it is with friends. I guess we’re always just trying to be the nicest we can and not sweat the small stuff. Cuz my best friend is important to me, she’s like a sister!” – Jennifer, age 11
“If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am only for myself, what am I?
There is a debate in the Talmud between two rabbis about what is more important: being a good person or studying Jewish values? Rabbi Tarfon said, “action and behaving as a good person is more important that studying Judaism.” Rabbi Akiva said, studying Judaism is more important because learning leads to good actions and good deeds.”
#3 WATCH this video about resolving disagreements with friends
#4 WATCH this teaching on “Why to judge your friends well”
#5 WATCH this video on “Derech Eretz: Ways to be a Mensch”
#6 TEACH these values to a friend.
#7 Respond and React
Now that you have watched the videos and learned about being a mensch to your friends, please respond to these questions in your Tamid Workbook or in class.
1. Why is it important to judge others favorably?
2. What are the two middot you learned today and give a one sentence definition for each middah.
3. Explain this phrase: “If I no for myself, who will be for me? If I am only for myself, what am I?”
4. Can you think of one example in your life when you could have been a better friend?
5. How would you like your friends to treat you with more menschlekiet (more mensch-like)?
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Also, at the end of the session, remember to review your responses in your Tamid Workbook so you can get credit for this lesson. Behatzlacha (Hebrew for good luck)!
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