The Mensch Series #4: Be a Mensch to your Family

Lesson: The Mensch Series #4: Be a Mensch to your Family

DSC_3736Being a Mensch (good person) is one of the most important aspects of being Jewish. In this session, you will learn about what Shalom Bayit, Peace in the Home, and ways to be a better family member – and to be even more of a mensch. In this lesson, you will learn:

  • The teaching of Shalom Bayit, having peace in the home.
  • The top 3 Jewish ways children can create Shalom Bayit in the home
  • Why being a Shalom Bayit peacemaker is an important Jewish value

READ THIS: What is Shalom Bayit (peace in the home)? 

Elul-lgPeace, harmony, kindness, calm, love, and shalom in the home is an important value in Judaism. There are many ingredients to having Shalom Bayit in the home and we believe that there are three middot (values) that you can follow to help create Shalom Bayit in your home:
1. Speak respectfully to your family members (and vice versa)
2. Be a team player and be cooperative
3. Be forgiving, don’t sweat the small stuff

#1. Speak respectfully to your family, be there for them, (and vice versa) and remember what the psalms teach: Hiney MaTov! How good and pleasant it is for brethren to live together in unity.”


#2. Be a Team Player by Being Cooperative.


#3 Be Forgiving and Don’t’ Sweat the Small Stuff

Hebrew Text ImageHave a conversation about what it mens to forgive and to not sweat the small stuff as you discuss this important text from Jewish tradition:

“Rabbi Natan said: “If one brings peace into the home, it is as though peace were brought to all the people of Israel.”

 


Are you Contributing to Shalom Bayit? Take the “Shalom Bayit Mensch Challenge.”

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Question A: When it comes to being helpful around the home, I am: 
1. Very Helpful (+1 point)
2. Kind of Helpful +(2 points)
3. Not very Helpful (+3 points)
4. a total LUMP (+4 points)

Question B: When it comes to my family, I am:
1. Respectful and Loving +1
2. Nice Enough +2
3. Stubborn +3
4. Selfish, I’m a drama queen or king and it has to be my way +4

Question C: When it comes to my parents, generally: 
1. They make the plan, I almost always go along with it +1
2. They make the plan, I generally go along but with some complaining +2
3. They try to make the plan, but I always have an opinion and we negotiate +3
4. They try to make the plan, but they do what I want them to do and it goes my way, usually +4

Next: Add up your score. Here’s how you rank:
3-4 points: A mensch at home, great for shalom bait. Keep it up!
5-7 points: Mensch quality, can probably do more for shalom bait.
8-10 points: Mensch potential, try to be more cooperative and less demanding.
11-12 points: You’ve got some work to do. You can do better for shalom bayit. God luck!


Respond and React
DSC_3817Now that you have watched the videos, studied about Shalom Bayit, and taken the Shalom Bayit Challenge, please respond to these questions in your Tamid Workbook.

1. What is the english translation of Shalom Bayit?
2. What are the three ways you can contribute to Shalom Bayit in the home?
3. How could Lindsay been more cooperative at home?
4. What is one thing that a family member in your home could do to improve Shalom Bayit?
5. MOST IMPORTANT: What is one thing you could do to improve Shalom Bayit in your home?


Need some help?

We’re here for you. At any time, if you have any questions, please contact one of our teachers so we can help you.

Also, at the end of the session, remember to review your responses in your Tamid Workbook so you can get credit for this lesson. Behatzlacha (Hebrew for good luck)!

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